Broken Engagement- Who Keeps the Ring
Both New York tabloids picked up this weekend on a widely reported case involving a broken engagement and the return of an engagement ring. (Finance Hits Rock Bottom and Fiance is “Gift” Rapped.) For purposes of complete disclosure, I represented the husband-to-be
In this case, the husband-to-be sought to recover a large diamond engagement ring given to his ex-finance, who broke off the engagement. The woman was allowed to keep the valuable ring.
An engagement ring is a gift made in contemplation of marriage. That is, the gift is conditioned upon the marriage actually taking place. If the marriage takes place, the condition is satisfied, and the woman is permitted to keep the ring. Conversely, if the marriage does not occur, the would-be-bride must return the ring.
So why was the woman, who broke off the engagement, allowed to retain the engagement ring? Because, there is an exception to the general rule: if a man is already married, he cannot legally contract to wed. The condition for giving the ring cannot be satisfied. Therefore, the woman is entitled to retain the purported gift made in contemplation of marriage even if the parties never wed.
The recent case was interesting because the man actually had been granted a divorce in Massachusetts, one month before he gave his fiancee the engagement ring. However, unlike New York, where the parties are free to re-marry as soon as the judgment of divorce is entered, in Massachusetts, the divorce does not become absolute until the passage of some time.
Although the man had successfully done everything that had to be done in order to obtain a divorce, that the divorce had been granted and that that all that was required for the divorce to become absolute was the passage of time, the Court ruled that the man was impaired from remarrying. Therefore, he was not entitled to the return of his ring.
The moral- Do not become engaged unless and until you are legally divorced

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Comments (11)
Read through and enter the discussion by using the form at the endAnthony - August 23, 2006 5:07 AM
Hi: just a fast question. I am from Texas and I broke up with my fiancee, is she entitled to keep the engagement ring? What if she sold it already? Thanks for any info that you can provide.
Paul - September 22, 2006 1:03 PM
I am from Texas. My fiancee left me, there was no cheating and i didn't tell her to " get out ". We agreed that there wasn't enough love shown to each other. I have never been married, she has been 3 times. Also, prior to her leaving she spent three months hooked on an antidepressant she acquired over the internet which made her " just not care ". Am i entitled to the ring?
Mia - February 18, 2007 12:54 PM
I have been married 4 years and goin gthrough a divorce now in New York. My husband says since he gave me the ring before we were married, he gets it..WHat are the laws regarding this in NY??
GARY - May 16, 2007 2:01 PM
i BROKE UP MY ENGAGEMENT...IN PHX AZ...CAN SHE KEEP THE RING??
SHE WANTED TO MARRY BUT DIDNT WANNA LIVE WITH ME...MARRIED BUT LIVING APART CPLS...I COULDNT DO IT...PLEASE HELP...
John - October 21, 2007 3:07 PM
My Ex Fianance broke up the enagement and cancelled all the wedding plans, but doesn't want to give back the Engagement ring. She has been engaged 2 times before, but has always returned the ring back to the man, but in this case she believe that the ring is a gift and she needs it to selliit, so she can afford to live. I am not sure how i can get my ring back after asking her serveral times?
She even asked me to notarize a letter so she can sell the ring , so she can pay her bills for serveral month . so my question would be if she stated that she needs a notarized letter, then how is the ring still consider a gift in her mind ?
Daniel Clement - October 22, 2007 10:59 AM
John
The ring must be returned based on the facts provided. If you sign the letter, she may claim that if was an unconditinoal gift.
Daniel Clement
Linette - April 1, 2008 11:36 AM
My girlfriends fiancee just died
the fiancee's family wants her engagement ring back. She can't believe its happening
what rights does she have
Linda - April 4, 2008 10:44 AM
I live in PA and got engaged in DE in Jan. My ex-fiance broke up with me 4 weeks later and didn't give me a reason. He is requesting the ring as well as all cash money and other gifts that he gave me while we were dating saying now that any cash he give me was a loan. I learned that DE is an "Unconditional Gift" state, would this cover all items that were received during the courtship? Does it matter what things I received after we were engaged as well as before? I thought if someone gave you a gift whether money or items then they were yours to keep, is this true or false? He stated yesterday through his daughter that if I don't return everything then he is going to sue me in court.
Thanks,
Linda
Daniel Clement - April 4, 2008 1:45 PM
You will have to speak with an attorney in the appropriate jurisdiction.
Dan Clement
sherlan - September 9, 2008 11:23 AM
my ex boyfriend who lives in Fl. and I in NY broke off our engagement. (Keep in mind he father someone's child outside our relationship)but over time i lwerned to forgive. Now he's harrassing me about the ring. The last time we spoke he said he understood why i wouldnt give him the ring back, that "it was a sincere gift" presently he sent me an email stating he's taking me to court if I dont return the ring, what am I to do?
S_Boog - January 20, 2009 9:09 PM
I moved all the way to MA from CO, sold everything on the hope that the promise of marriage would follow. It didn't, and now I am stuck in MA, and he wants the ring back, is he entitled?